How to reboot your thinking and transform your life

Have you ever had a gut feeling that you’re not doing the sort of work you were born to do? Maybe you’ve experienced anxiety or strong emotions about your life path that you struggle to interpret?

If you have, you’re not alone. These feelings come from your subconscious mind, which is based on instinct. Being analytical, I find instinct difficult to articulate so I often dismiss it and concentrate on what my conscious mind is telling me, which is far simpler but also counter intuitive.

We all have the ability to interpret messages from both forms of our consciousness; however, many of us have lost the ability to ‘hear’ what our subconscious mind is trying to tell us.

How our thoughts and feelings drive our behaviour

Thoughts are our way of giving meaning to the signals we receive from our senses. At a conscious level, we think logically, however, our subconscious does not use words. Instead, it thinks with feelings and emotions, which it learns to associate with certain words or thought patterns. It is this combination of thoughts and emotions that shape our beliefs about ourselves, our place in the world and determines how we behave in different environments.

The responses we receive about our behaviour then feeds back to our consciousness. This can create a circular pattern and reinforce our habitual behaviour.

If you pay attention, you might notice thoughts like these and also notice the feelings that come with them.

·      “I’m no good at … (e.g. computers/sports/maths).”

·      “I’m not going to do that because… (something bad will happen).”

·      “That person didn’t get back to me. They mustn’t like me. I won’t contact them again.”

These thought patterns generally make no logical sense; however, when left unchecked, they can lead to the development of aversion tactics, anxiety or intense phobias.

When you find yourself thinking along these lines, see if you can identify the source of the underlying fears. What do they look like and how do they feel to you? It is these fears that are often the hurdles that prevent us advancing in our career.

Once you become aware of any negative patterns going on in your head, it is best to do something about them before they get worse. To change your behaviours and reactions, though, you need to be willing to face your fears and find ways to overcome them.

How do you reset your thought program?

Try thinking of your cognitive process as a complex computer system. If errors occur, you can switch off the faulty program and replace it with a more effective one. It may not disappear, but it is no longer the default setting.

There are many proven techniques that can help you do this yourself, however, if you’re about to embark on a full self assessment that may bring up emotions you’re not fully equipped to deal with, and let’s be honest, this is many of us, then it’s probably worth seeking the help of a trained professional. They can help you learn how to identify the unhelpful thought patterns and deal with any unleashed emotions that may have been supressed. Professionals can also guide you to develop alternative ways of thinking that lead to a more positive outcome.

Some of the techniques that may help you to overcome your fears include:


Hypnotherapy is not a form of mind control. It is impossible to get someone to perform an action that goes against their core beliefs and values. The subject is always aware of their surroundings but the hypnotist communicates directly with the subconscious mind and bypasses the conscious level.

Neurolinguistic programming (NLP)

Our perception of the world is subjective and based on the input of our senses, how we process the information we receive, our emotional biases and the words we use in our thoughts. We can learn to change our perception by changing how we respond to sensorial information. NLP allows us to examine the processing models that are known to lead to success and to implement these in the areas we want to change.


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Learn more about how techniques like these can set you on the path to personal success by listening to the interview with Dr Vesna Grubacevic at The Mentor List. Dr Vesna is the founder of award-winning company Quantum Transformations. She is also a qualified NLP and hypnotherapy trainer, bestselling author, speaker, media commentator and an expert in creating quick and permanent transformations. Dr Vesna shares how she transformed her own life from working in a job she no longer liked by learning how to overcome her own fears. She now shows others how to make similar changes in their lives.


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